Every human who dares to be themselves will encounter severe harsh backlash. It’s just a given. I don’t like it, I don’t agree with it, and most certainly don’t do it, but it exists. And it hurts like hell, so it breaks souls and destroys dreams left and right, which I believe is the reason why the world is such a ball of anger right now: people don’t feel safe to be themselves and get stuck before they even get to their teenage years.
When you’re heavily attacked, it makes you doubt yourself, spend a ridiculous amount of energy rising from the ground, and it makes you doubt everyone around.
When we don’t trust ourselves, we don’t trust others.
That’s how the world becomes a very scary place and you begin to panic and hide: I can’t trust these people with my heart and they’re everywhere, so I must hide my heart. It’s my only option.
When you hide your heart it creates shame within yourself, because the message you transmit to your own Soul is: I’m willing to sacrifice who I am to obbey wounded people who can’t even see me. That’s how little I think of me. So within this self-destructive cycle you begin to spiral down and get drained in record time.
The Soul can’t be drained unless you allow it. That’s why you were born with free will: so that you make your own choices and build your life on your own terms. God confided your Soul to this beautiful body and this sharp mind of yours. GOD TRUSTED YOU enough to put a SOUL in your hands and tell you to do whatever you want with it. That’s the responsibility you have and that’s how much God trusts you.
That’s the origin of anxiety; not being able to face yourself, what you allowed to be done with you, and what you did to yourself. Deep down, no matter how much you deny it, you KNOW you didn’t honor yourself which created guilt and shame that’s hard to admit and process.
Sometimes you can’t face yourself because you were shamed by others, not because YOU did something wrong. And more often than not when that’s the case, you can’t face yourself because if you do, there will be a MAJOR ANGER EXPLOSION that’ll unleash the beast you’ve been hiding. This beast is your greatness, your most powerful self that can get you out of this insignificant life and send you straight into who you were born to be.
The day you unleash your beast is the day you sit on the throne meant for you from day one.
People damage us when we don’t know how to look into their eyes. We learn to look down or look with dominance. We don’t know how to look with curiosity, just for the fun of it. And by taking things and people too seriously we end up becoming their prisoners due to the constant concern about how are we being portrayed.
When people:
- talk badly about you behind your back
- Give you love and attention only when you obbey them
- Compare you with others
- Come to you to complain, period.
- Put you down, critic, and judge you
- Say they’re concerned about you when you know they’re actually trying to vent without opening up and being vulnerable
They’re making their problems about you. You’re not even in it! And all the shame and guilt are manipulation tools to keep you stuck and freely donating your beautiful, gorgeous, powerful energy to their wounded egos. It’s not fair and it’s not safe. You must know that.
And you must also know it’s ok to walk away. Specially when a loved one who claims to love you back is crossing the line big time. You know who these people are. You’re wise.
Fighting back means trying to fit in the boxes they want you to be stuck in. And shrinking down means deep down believing what they say about you. Both are signs that you’re not very familiar and intimate with yourself, intimate coming from intimacy which means “into me see”. So both reactions mean you don’t see yourself for who you really are. You haven’t spent time with yourself being too busy with what happens outside.
The easiest solution to this problem is looking people and yourself in the eyes every day, consciously.
Today you’re looking at them full of convictions and control. “What do they think of me? They must thing xyz”.
I guarantee they’re not even talking about you. You’re not even in it! You’re being used as an alibi because you allow it to be so, or because you’re stronger than average and they know you can handle it. It’s not fair or nice. It just is.
Don’t try to change what is. Change yourself so you’re no longer energetically compatible with it. That’s how toxicity stops being able to access you.
And to believe me, you must look them in the eyes with dare and curiousity. Just look and see what else you can find.
I’m telling you. This practice will change your life forever! It WILL heal anxiety for good and transform your life. I guarantee!
And I’ll teach you how to apply all that properly in my new healing session La Ansiedad. So buy it and let’s do this! Há!
Much love,
Cá!
See you at the session!